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| Falling Ahead |
| 1 July 2010, 14:50 |
I found this in my e-mails today and thought it was the answer to my procrastination problem. Hope you enjoy it too.
Lin
Falling ahead
Are you tired of falling behind? Then start falling ahead. Falling behind begins when you neglect to take care of something that needs to be done. Then something else comes along and suddenly you're playing catch up.
All too soon, the problem builds upon itself and you find yourself so far behind that it's difficult to get anything done. Yet you can work yourself out, and work yourself ahead, the same way you fell behind, one task at a time.
Falling ahead happens when you can anticipate something that will need to be done, and then you go ahead and take care of it early. That frees you to anticipate the next necessary task, so you can address it early as well.
Before long, you're so far ahead that you're no longer burdened by what needs to be done. You can focus your energy on the valuable, productive and fulfilling activities that you choose to do.
Those who get ahead and those who fall behind use just about the same amount of effort. Those who get ahead just take each effort a little bit earlier than necessary, and that can make an enormous difference.
-- Ralph Marston |
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| July - a Recovery Challenge! |
| 29 June 2010, 15:09 |
July is always a challenge for those in recovery, especially in the holiday city of Durban, and especially in South Africa during the World Cup! I am reminded of this by the number of my clients who recently report having 'urges' or 'cravings' to drink, drug or gamble.
Firstly you have The Durban July - our annual horserace - which is a huge challenge for those who are addicted to gambling. Every second person you meet is discussing the horses and wanting tips. Every person and the 'auntie in the office' places a small bet on the July - so it becomes really difficult for those who should not even open the newspaper racing pages.
Secondly - there is the small issue of the Durban July "Parties". There is a joke that goes round that it snows in Durban at the July. I know it can get a little chilly but they are not talking about precipitation - just about the amount of cocaine that floats around...not to mention champagne and other delights. All very well if you don't have an addicted constitution - but hell if you do.
This year, even the Durban July is eclipsed by the World Cup with all of the non-stop partying, vuvuzelas and, of course - sports betting!
So what's a recovering addict to do? Move to Pofadder is my suggestion!
But seriously, if you are committed to your recovery you might want to have a strategy. Here are some thoughts:
- Decide ahead whether you are going to stay clean, sober and addiction free. If your thoughts are right, you will be stronger. If you are wavering in your resolve, phone someone. Remember that effective people make a decision and then manage that decision!
- Stick with people who are strong in their recovery or who support yours
- Avoid "hot-spots" like casinos, bars, totes and places where people are likely to be out-of-control drunk or high
- Plan recreational activities that take you away from high risk people and places
- Attend a 12 step support group. Anyone is welcome, anytime!
- Remember how bad you were - and how far you've come.
Don't be surprised if you have an urge to gamble or for your drug of choice.
If you're an addict - it's normal.
It's what you do about it that really counts.
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| Ayoba! |
| 15 June 2010, 12:27 |
It is so exciting to be able to launch this new revamp of my website at this momentous time in South Africa's history.
There is so much national pride in our country's achievements. Our stadiums are stunning and dramatic and the opening ceremony was a wonderful celebration of all that is good about Africa. Our beloved Bafana even provided a respectable draw against Mexico with a stand-out first goal of the tournament.
After the dreadful events surrounding the Terreblanche murder, the digraceful behaviour of a certain youth leader whose name I shall never write - we all held our breath. The international media seemed to almost wish our return to racial division and hatred. But reason prevailed. We all looked deep into our souls and decided that was NOT what we wanted for our beloved country.
First we had the Super 12 final at Orlando Stadium in Soweto. I will never forget the sight of those ridiculously fervent thoroughly Afrikaner fans with their bull horns and nose-rings partying with the Stormer fans in the heart of Soweto.
Now we are well into the Fifa World Cup and we have risen to the occasion. There is such a spirit of celebration, generosity, hospitality and patriotism. It makes all of us proud not only to be South African, but to belong to this African continent.
This web site is essentially about recovery. It is for those who want to renew their lives, to make new decisions, to take on the challenge of personal re-invention. It is about what is possible.
All I am saying is that if South Africa can... you can too.
Ayoba! |
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| Two year old addicted to smoking. |
| 31 May 2010, 17:10 |
Did anyone see the picture and article in this Sunday's Tribune about the two year old who is addicted to smoking. The child was given a cigarette by his father when he was 18 months old and now has 'developed' a 40 cigarettes a day habit!
What? No he hasn't, his father has 'developed' his habit by giving him 40 cigarettes a day. How else does a two year old get hold of 40 cigarettes a day.
He throws a tantrum if he doesn't get his ciggies. I'm sure he does. He's two! Stop him now while he 'only' weighs 25kgs! (He throws tantrums for food too apparently!) Imagine how difficult he will be to stop when he's 13 years old and weighs 250 kgs!
He is also throwing tantrums because he is addicted. He is experiencing withdrawal when he doesn't get his fix. Yes, it is possible for a two year old to be addicted, especially when you have a genetic pre-disposition. By this, I mean that his parents are obviously terminally stupid! His father is quoted as saying "He looks healthy to me. I don't see the problem." - Perhaps we should add 'visually impaired' to the 'stupid' diagnosis!
This is such a sad case of addiction and child abuse. The parents are clearly to blame here. A two year old is not responsible for himself. His parents are. This poor kid needs to be removed from his parents, detoxified with medical supervision and placed on a healthy diet.
What a bizarre example of enabling parents! |
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